That’s What The Promise Is For

 

So lately I’ve been falling in love with the music of Andrew Peterson. I realize he’s been on the Christian music scene for quite some time already, but just last November I saw him in concert with Steven Curtis Chapman for the first time and thought, “Hey, this guy is really good!” His lyrics are flowing, poetic and deeply felt, which are all hallmarks of a great musician for me.

Anyway, I was driving around town the other day with the iPod going just like always, and Andrew’s song “Dancing in the Minefields” came up. I’ve heard this song several times before and it’s one you’ve probably heard if you listen to any sort of contemporary Christian radio. It’s a very sweet mellow song about how marriage is hard and even dangerous, especially when you marry young, but it’s SO so worth it. In this song there’s one line that always seems to stand out for me: “And this harder than we dreamed, but I believe that’s what the promise is for”.

It’s that word “promise”. It’s a strong word! And one that doesn’t get taken too seriously nowadays, I’m sad to say. But I had a mini-revelation sitting in my car that day. There are a few different variations on what traditional wedding vows are supposed to look like, but typically they’re littered with words like I vow, I promise, I pledge. The question that ran through my head was, why do we need a promise? Most aspects of popular culture today will tell you that love is supposed to be easy, that you shouldn’t have to work very hard at it, and if you run into too many rough spots, then it probably wasn’t meant to be and oh well, it’s time for a divorce. But if loving someone is supposed to be that easy, then the promise isn’t really necessary, right? Because promises by their nature are meant to keep you pointed in one direction when it’s tempting to go another. So why do marriages typically come with a promise?

Because marriage is hard!

Go figure, right? Most of us have heard this our entire lives, but I don’t think that all of us have truly taken it to heart, and tend to throw it out the window completely when faced with the struggles of marriage for the first time. So when the storms DO come, it’s like a slap in the face. We think, “this wasn’t supposed to happen…was it?” But I think marriage comes with a promise because the God who made it knew that it was a relationship contrary to the natural frame of our selfish, sinful minds. The promise is the thing that’s meant to keep us going when everything else is telling us to give up.

I realize that I’m only a young 20-something and have no personal experience with marriage whatsoever, so I’m not truly qualified to talk about this. But I do know what it’s like to try to love someone you care about when everything seems to be going against you. And I can only hope that if/when I do marry someday, I’ll be faithful enough to honor the promise I’ll make, so help me. And I think knowing that the storms WILL come, that they’re not abnormal or rare, will make them easier to endure in the end…because that’s what the promise is for.

What do you guys think? Do you married folks agree? What about the single folks like myself? I’d love to hear what you have to say. 🙂

I’m Published! ….Sortof.

So I realized the other day that I haven’t written a post in like 3 weeks? Sometimes life gets busy, so figure. So what’s going on with me you may wonder? Actually, you may not wonder that at all, but I’m going to tell you anyway. The most exciting thing that’s happened recently is that I just had my birthday! Whooo….I’m officially old. No but really, I had a really nice day doing things with friends and family and I got some fantastic gifts, including a few from my list I posted at the beginning of July!

[Side note: Is it weird that one of my favorite gifts was a bathroom scale? I take an unusual amount of happiness at being able to weigh myself every day….I don’t have an eating disorder, I promise…]

Anyway, one of the coolest birthday occurrences this year actually happened the day before my birthday, but it still counts in my opinion. I came home from work to a package from some bookseller that I had never heard of before, and I was all:

This doesn’t actually look like me at all.

I hadn’t ordered anything, and I knew my parents hadn’t ordered anything in my name, so I had absolutely no clue what it was. I opened it, and TA-DAH!!! I found two copies of “Crochet 2013 Calendar”, and I was instantly deliriously excited. Here’s the story. Back in spring of 2011 I submitted two crochet patterns for this calendar to the “compiler/editor”, who had just happened to contact me over Ravelry and told me that she liked my patterns. (By the way, if you’re a crocheter or knitter and don’t know what Ravelry is, you’re missing out…big time. And yes, I’m the ultimate granny-in-training, I do actually crochet quite frequently.) I didn’t hear back from them until May of THIS year (what a long time to wait, right?), saying that both my patterns had been accepted for the 2013 Crochet Calendar, yay! But I wasn’t going to actually get my free copies of the calendar until they’d actually been made, which was who knows when. So obviously, I was very excited that this

The earring pattern showing in the do-jigger is mine! 🙂

showed up on my doorstep the day before my birthday, because I wasn’t expecting them until fall. 🙂 If you’d like to see the patterns I submitted, you can actually find them for free on Ravelry under the username “kaityh1”, or on my crochet blog (which hasn’t been updated in a year, I know, I’m a terrible person) both here and here. Or, if you want to actually buy the calendar for next year, you can buy them on Amazon for $13.49.  Spiffy right?

Anywho, it’s about time to get back to my exciting life of postal work and housesitting! Au revoir!

Jerkface

I was a jerkface today.

Not to mention a terrible human being.

I was working tonight, and a woman came in not long before closing. She wanted to utilize a service that we only provide until 6pm, and she came in at 6:25pm. I regretfully informed her that we only provided said service until 6 and that we had already closed out the system for the day, and she looked at me with this pitiful face. I felt terrible, informed her that there was another store just a few minutes away that provided what she needed until 7. But still she gave me this look, like she was just willing me to give in and give her what she wanted, and she said she didn’t have time to go the other store and she wasn’t able come back tomorrow and she didn’t know what she was going to do. I continued to give her the “we only do that until 6” schpiel, and she left dejected. But you know what?

I lied.

Well, okay, I didn’t lie. I was perfectly justified in telling her that we close out the system at 6, because that’s store policy. But it’s not a hard and fast rule. And tonight, I hadn’t closed out yet. I had moved the money to the back to count it, but I hadn’t closed out yet. I could have taken the payment for her. Yet what did I do? Be a jerk when I should have just given her a break. Ugh.

What I wanted to do after being a jerk.

There aren’t many times when I can point out an instance when I specifically did something that I knew I shouldn’t have done, and this was one of them. And it sucks. Thank goodness I serve a God of grace who overlooks my stupidity and selfishness. I’m sure there’s more I could say, but at the moment it’s late, and that’s about all the energy I’ve got for this subject tonight. Here’s hoping the next post is a little more…well, hopeful.

Things I’d Like to Acquire in the Near Future (aka A Potential Birthday Wish List)

1. Blossoming Almond Tree Kindle Skin – http://www.amazon.com/Van-Gogh-Blossoming-Protective-Keyboard/dp/B00485FHZ6/ref=sr_1_2? ie=UTF8&qid=1341188519&sr=8-2&keywords=van+gogh+kindle+skin

2. TardEx Shirt – http://www.mtctoys.com/product_info.php?products_id=346 

3. Tardis Mug (Yes, I’m a little Dr. Who crazy. 😉 ) – http://www.thinkgeek.com/homeoffice/mugs/e5c5/

4. Howl’s Moving Castle (Or ANY Miyazaki movie by the way! They’re all fantastic. ^_^) – http://www.amazon.com/Howls-Moving-Castle-Chieko-Baishô/dp/B000CDGVOE/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1341189611&sr=8-1&keywords=howl%27s+moving+castle  

5. Terrarium Stand (For Jack’s terrarium. Who is Jack? Hmmm….) – http://www.petsmart.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2752551 

6. This Dress – http://www.kohls.com/kohlsStore/juniors/dresses/PRD~1094222/City+Triangles+Embroidered+Asymmetrical+Dress.jsp 

7. Spoon Ring (Not necessarily THIS one…I’ve just been wanting one for years!) – http://tinyurl.com/rosespoonring

8. Beauty and the Beast Tee – http://www.disneystore.com/beauty-and-the-beast-fitted-roses-beauty-and-the-beast-the-broadway-musical-tee-for-women/mp/1264282/1000008/ 

9. Barton Hollow – The Civil Wars – http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/barton-hollow/id408880169           

10. Counting Stars – Andrew Peterson – http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/counting-stars/id380828329     

11. Health-O-Meter Digital Scale (I won’t take it like you think I’m fat, I promise…I just really want a bathroom scale!) – http://www.target.com/p/health-o-meter-digital-scale/-/A-11178926